Or is it people you owe money to talk? Everyone always says that finances are one of the main things to consider before having a baby. Guess what…they’re not kidding. When I came back to work after my maternity leave, David and I were feeling pretty good. We had dipped into our savings as expected, but seemed to be doing okay. I guess that smugness just caught up to us because money has been SO tight lately.
We live in one of the most expensive cities in the world. Pair that with a lack of savings, childcare, diapers, formula…um, yeah, it caught up.
Our big goals are to be debt-free (again) and move to a bigger place next summer. That gives us one year to get it together!
The hedonic treadmill is the supposed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes. According to this theory, as a person makes more money, expectations and desires rise in tandem, which results in no permanent gain in happiness.*
Isn’t that interesting? As you make more money, something in your head tells you your lifestyle needs to change accordingly to be happy. We were plenty happy when we first got married and were dirt poor, so why are we struggling now that we’re making more. Sure, the baby is part of it, but our heads are also part of it.
I just pray that we can adjust our thinking and remember how happy we can be without spending so much.